I used to be in an abusive relationship. Every day, my partner would say hurtful things to me. I swallowed them and pretended not to hear them. Because I wanted a complete family for my daughter. There were many times when he would hurt me physically. It even reached a point that he strangled me when I told him I would leave him. He later said sorry and said he just did that because he loved me so much and did not want to lose me. So, I stayed to keep our family whole. There was a time when I caught my partner cheating on me. He denied what was very clear to me. He said she was just his friend that he met through a friend. That was the last straw for me. I decided I have had enough. I loved him but I should love myself more. I loved our little family, yes, but I love my daughter so much more that I realized she did not deserve to grow up with that kind of father. I told myself that I would not let this person hurt me even more and take away any self-respect that I had left. I gathered what was left of my dignity and took my daughter with me. We started a new life together – just me and my lovely daughter. And what an amazing feeling it was.
There was a time when I thought I was alone. I could not turn to my partner for any help because he was the source of all my distress. Yet, I had to be strong for our daughter. But when I finally got out of that abusive relationship, I realized that there are a lot of people out there who are ready to help me. My family gave me all the support that I needed especially in starting all over again. They were there for my daughter. They filled my daughter’s love tank all the way to the brink. They helped me get Peoria Home Energy Audit so that we can cut down on our expenses at home. My friends were there to cheer me up and give me back my confidence. They gave me a makeover and I felt more like myself again. I also found out that there are a lot of support groups for single moms like me. I realized that life was beautiful and my daughter and I are loved by many.
I am sharing this story because there are many moms out there who are afraid to get out of their relationships – even though it is not healthy anymore. They succumb to learned helplessness. They take in all the pain and think that there is no way out. I am here to tell you that there is a beautiful life out there. Do not be afraid to start anew. I am not saying that it will be easy. But what I am saying is that you can make it through. Your family, friends, and community are there for you.